I'm so sorry you went through such a traumatic event. What can you do but act like you can move on? So sorry, Danielle. This article. Yes. The platitudes. "Yup. Ok. thanks for utterly not giving a shit about another human...and I thought we were sort of friends." situation has happened to me many times. I used to shirk away from being honest to the "concerned" inquiries from others. No longer. "How are things?" now gets, "Shitty, actually, really, really bad but I still wake up ever day. Thanks for asking." is my usual reply now.