Well, this is your reality so obviously the points you bring up are valid, but that doesn’t mean your conclusions are true. Strong, intelligent, confident, stable women are the most attractive.
Perhaps instead of looking at placing blame, them vs you, maybe examine what kind of pool you are selecting candidates from.
Are they club boys? Gym addicts? Crypto kings? Material driven? Image driven? Where are you shopping? If the environment is full of sharks hunting feeder fish and you’re a killer whale, the sharks will swim away.
Swim in the waters with your pod. Good men, intelligent, emotionally secure men, want women like you desperately.
There’s nothing wrong with you, loads of attributes and beauty to match.